There are 3 roles any person can play in a relationship: a victim, a villain, or a hero. Victims and villains are opposites, but a hero is an alternative everyone should aspire to; God created us with this capacity built into our DNA.

God wants us to be champions to our spouses, our children, and our communities. With His help, you have what it takes!

Heroism requires stamina, courage, honor, and sacrifice. It means taking ownership for your actions and communicating bravely and respectfully.

Losses can shake our faith. When our needs – physical, financial, or otherwise – don’t get resolved, doubt creeps in. We start to wonder if God even hears us at all, thinking, How do we trust God when our deepest disappointments get realized? 

A wise man once said, "Those who love the most hurt the most.” We have the opportunity to love God with all of our hearts. While it might seem safe to close off and guard our hearts from disappointment, cynicism is not healthy.

Believers are called to intercede for the impossible.

When you first become aware that there are areas of your life that need healed, it can feel like a massive mountain to climb to be able to reach the peak and to obtain the elusive “healing” that is often spoken of.

Yet, not one of us ever reaches a place in all areas of our lives where we reach that ubiquitous destination.

There are some of us who have become more healed than others, yes, but there is always more!

If you’ve ever struggled to trust, you likely have good reasons for that. Trust takes time to build.

Our brain literally forms grooves over time based on our repeated thoughts, actions and experiences. But the good news is our minds are pliable and trust can be (re-) learned and built. We’re “transformed by” the [literal] “renewing of our minds”. [Romans 12:2]

Conflict is merely information. It’s not right or wrong. But it’s information. And most likely it’s information that I don’t already have or we probably wouldn’t be in this conflict.

As an adult, your ways of reacting to relational intimacy and conflict often stem from the way that your parents responded to your physical and emotional needs. This is called your “attachment style,” and it also shapes how you choose relationships and give/receive love within them.

If you find yourself drawn to the same type of poor relationships, or you continue to play out destructive cycles in your relationships, then your attachment style may be the underlying culprit. The good news is that you can change your attachment style with intentional effort and healing!

We're often so afraid of pain that we default to stuffing our pain or attempting to ignore it. When we choose this path, the end result is unforgiveness, bitterness, and even a “hardness” in our hearts that decreases our capacity for joy, peace, and love.

But there's hope! We can change the way we see pain: Every painful thought is a gift. In this blog, explore 6 steps for processing pain and receiving comfort from God in the midst of it.

A good place to start growing towards relational wholeness is by learning to identify and express your needs.

Why? Because your needs drive most of your actions and behaviors, even if you lack conscious awareness of them.